What is good for me - it is not necessary good for everyone

I try to live a life of balance and reality is that in my whole life I am always trying to help people to achieve this as well. I, myself I am not always in control of balance. It is a process I have to aline every day. My willingness of helping other people around me, sometimes brings me in complex situations or thoughts. The good thing is that these events will help me to grow as a human and learn more about life.

Yesterday I spend one day with one of my friends, who we did not spend too much time together before. She comes from my country and there has been automatically a force that pulls me to help her succeed in here. The same force that makes want to help all the people who left their home country and are living away from home. I can identify myself and sympathise with them.
She came from a poor home, grew up in a very simple and humble place. Always helping her parents and struggling with keeping her family moving forward. So she grow up psychologically very fast. She was lucky to receive a little bit more education than her parents or siblings. She met a German guy back home and married him. Moved to Germany for about 15 years now. She has a little girl.

She told me she is happy. And here comes the whole deal. I can see in her eyes, that maybe she is not complete happy. But, anyways.. we talked about life and how she is now tired of everything. She does everything for everyone - all the time. She has no balance at her home. Her husband doesn't help her - not even picking up the dirty pampers to move them into the trash - in one occasion for days..
I am no one to judge. I am lazy myself sometimes. but I like to think that my life is way more balanced. That I play my teamwork card in my home all the time and works very good. It is a give and take.
So naturally, I started to talk with her about that. I told her maybe is better is her husband helps at home, she is overwhelmed of housework with no end. She kept complaining that he doesn't do anything and that even she could imagine herself living without him and she would probably be better of. As hard as it sounds, I agreed.
But at the end of our conversations, she told me that she is happy like that. That she is happy as a house maid if you want to put it. That, all what she does it is what she is suppose to do for her man. She even said that it is maybe her fault. The fact that sometimes she gets upset because she has too much on her plate. That there are other men in the world, that could be worst than him and therefore she is happy with him.

I muss say, I have nothing against him. I think he is a person with a great heart. But he does not see all the things she does for him and takes her for granted. It is so sad, I think.
So I kept on giving her advises that she needs to love her self first or she will get sick if she continues like that. I could go on hours and hours with more advices.
Later that day, when I was driving back home. I started analysing my words. I realised that I sound hateful, hateful against her husband. Because I look up for the best of my friend, and I don't think it is fair to be treated like that. But than it click me. She said to me she is happy. Then, why I keep on worrying about it?

I think, this is a lesson I need to learn on not to get too involve in others lives. I don't want to be a toxic person, then I let it go. She won't hear more of my advices of how to live her life. She is happy like that. So, I need to accept that my methods or my way of living - trying to live in balance- it is not applicable to everyone.

I wish her the best with her family and if she is really happy as she told me, then that is all what it is important here. If she needs me, I will be here for support, but for now I will learn and accept.

#balance #morelove #letitgo #wishIcoulddomore #bestwishes

"The beautiful thing about learning is that no one can take it away from you" B.B King

I was reading this amazing book of Brian Swimme "The Hidden Heart of the Cosmos" and no matter how many times I read it I always come back to it. Human existence to its highest level of understanding, or perhaps to some; not so much. It became harder to believe that in these times of modernity and industrialize movements, humans would not take the time to realize that we are simply part of the whole universe. It seems that "life" passes artlessly in front of our eyes; however there is hardly a single day that we can stop and became aware of the breathtaking world that we live in - and most of it - in the  amazing Universe we are floating suspended by earth's gravity. 

In a physical sense -explained Swimme- we live in industrial artifacts designed to keep us inside and the universe outside. It is for this reason that the primary concerns of our hearts and minds are overwhelmingly focused on the requirements imposed upon us by life -day by day. In his chapter "Looking Down on the Milky Way" he explained how in an ultimate sense we - as humans - know just so little about the dark past and so little about the future that is to come. But we do know that, as we wonder over the great milky path surrounding us in the night, we are entering into an experience that billions of humans back through time shared. 

If there is something that unites us as humans with time, is that we also wonder about our macrocosm, as our ancestors did. In the middle of the night, they also question themselves about a reality that goes beyond our understanding. Although the sky that we are watching now it has been projected so many light years behind, is still the same environment that once was also questioned. The difference perhaps; it is that nowadays we are blind by our robotic programmed money maker lives. We might not have the answers to all our wonders, but one thing is for sure- that life goes very fast and rapidly involves you in the circle of automat responses. So, for the time that we have left, we should explore the world we live in substantially and appreciate the universe in which we have been created in a stunning similarity. Avoid the suction of the tornado of materialism and start appreciating more our real home, our Universe.

"Be the CHANGE you wish to see in THE WORLD"-Gandhi

The time is today, do not think about tomorrow, don't remember the past; if you really want to make it possible, start now. Life is short and will no wait for you, time goes very fast and regrets are not acceptable. Do not be afraid of wishing and dreaming, be afraid of doing nothing about those dreams. Everything is possible in this world, yes we can shape it, change it and make it the way you want. If you truly wish it.